gemma

Loneliness
01/12/2008

My son is 12 weeks old and up untill now we have been busy visiting friends and family etc, but it now seems to have all dried up ! Does anyone else feel this way ? What does everyone do with their days ? i don't want to go crazy staring at these four walls

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vicky

Re: Loneliness
01/12/2008

Hi, yes i understand how you feel as have same prob!! other than visiting, or mother and baby group ive run out of ideas. i cant drive at the mo and live out in the sticks. Been out on country walks (originally from the city) buts it soddin freezing!! as for the mother/baby group, well as im not from these parts, and mothers all know each other (very close knit community) ive not been made very welcome. Moving back to the city soon so sod them!! until then emm......well, not much to do, although, i now speak fluent baby babble!! Take Care, Vicky x p.s. if you think of anything please let me know

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stacey

Re: Loneliness
01/12/2008

hey im the same as u vicky im from leeds but moved ova to a quiet area just outside of whitby, and we havent been made very welcome eya and me or hubby dnt have any friends rly. we lived in leeds until my daughter was 1 and then moved ova here nly 2 yrs ago, and the other day me n hubby wa lookin thru photo albums and realzed we have more memories in leeds than we do here. we dnt drive n busses ar non existent, so we too have decided to move bak to leeds. how crazy!!! as for activities, im bored stiff, every1 used to say once u have a baby ul neva b bored again, bt iv neva been so bored. i love my daughter shes amazin, but not havin any adult convo and gettin out is depressin. i try to paint with my daughter but u cnt do this every day. i just find lyf soo lonely its horrible. take care anyway guys luv stacey rhiannon(2) and 40+1 wk bumpy xxx

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amy-lara

Re: Loneliness
02/12/2008

Try being a single mum to a 7 months old with no family around...some days I really wish I could just run away on my own. BUT then my little boy gives me a little chuckle & I feel so guilty. I lost the majority of my friends not long after having Joshie - the novelty wore off for them I guess! They are are single in their mid 20's-30's & obviously I'm too boring now I have a baby with me 24/7. I do take my son swimming & baby group, but to be honest the last thing I want is to be surrounded by other kids! I just want some time back to myself to be 'me' again. I always wanted to be a mummy, but had ferility problems in the past & Joshie was a HUGE surprise, but then his dad left & hardly bothers with us. Parenthood certainly isn't what I expected & I'm certainly in no rush to ever do it again - Joshie is my world, but it's been nothing but a struggle since the day I got pregnant & spent the whole time in & out of hospital with heavy bleeds...alone. Amy & Joshie xxx

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Amy

Re: Loneliness
02/12/2008

I clean the house while my 3 month old plays on the floor or in her bouncy chair. If that isn't a good idea for you try making a scrapbook for your child.

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Jessica

Re: Loneliness
03/12/2008

i am single mum to a 6 yr old and a 15 month old and i hate the weekends! loneliness really kicks in then. all my friends are partnered off and i run out of ideas and money to know what to do with my kids. i have no family around they are a 4 hr drive away and my ex boyf and his family are useless. i feel really lonely at the moment especially with christmas coming. its really hard to keep going sometimes. i am just lucky i have healthy children who are happy but still wish things were different jessica 30 beth 6 zac 15 months

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Jade

Re: Loneliness
03/12/2008

i understand completely how you feel, my lil girl is 15 weeks now and its like the novalty has dryed up with veveryone and im stuck at home alone, even more boring because im single. ive just started going to the shops everyday to try and keep busy and do things

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vicky

Re: Loneliness
03/12/2008

Hi, replied above at top re: livin in the sticks. Reply to post about housework and scrapbook - can only do so much housework! i do it when little one is asleep - my house is spotless!! and as for making a scrapbook - i play with my little one 24/7 whilst shes awake, have all toys to play with her, talk her to death, do massage on her (read a book on it) and other baby execises with her etc - my brain is frazzled!! need adult time but as you all know theres not a lot when on your own during day, in quiet place etc. Re: being single parent - was single parent with my eldest daughter for several years so went to university to fill my time - qualified and got a good job and threw myself into work as my daughter grew up - shes nearly 18 now. Being a single parent can be tough but I was glad after a while when my useless ex hopped it!! I was free, yes it was a struggle but freedom and peace of mind you cant put a price on. Thats the way to look at it those of you who have useless ex's, at least your not stuck with their c**p 24/7, and you have control on how much they inflict their c**p on your kids. There are a lot of people out there stuck in bad bad relationships that dont have the courage to get out, or their c**p partners refuse to leave. You really have to try to be postive bout your situation. When I went to uni, and it was only bout 5 years ago i had to work as well as look after my child, and complete uni work whilst, in hiding from my ex, he eventually set fire to my and my daughters home 2 years ago, and we have had to leave my home city to escape from him but im still positive and I have a lot to be thankful for, we all have!! Vicky

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patricia

Re: Loneliness
03/12/2008

I am also a single parent with 3 children. I have a 3 year old boy and 7 month old boy/girl twins. I dont actually get lonely as there are so many of us around! but I do miss the adult conversations and the nights out, but thankfully that has just recently changed as I have met a guy on the internet (sceptical at first but it paid off!) I dont have any family nearby. Ive just got my Mum who is 3 hours away, and a handful of friends and aquaintances, but I do have help from 'Children's Centre Services' and another volunteered organisation called 'Home Start'. They are there to help you if you are a single parent and also if you have a partner or husband. Its only a couple of hours a week from both organisations, but its help, its company, and its free! You can get information of both on the internet or from your Local Authority or come back to me and I will find out what I can for you. Im no expert but Im happy to help and to offer advice. x

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