Hi, its difficult to advise as only a small amount of info in your message.
I do have to ask, if the fathers not there when she wakes in the morning then who is? What im trying to establish is that shes not being left alone, or if shes not then do you know who is caring for your daughter when her father is not there?
I dont know why your daughter does not want her dad, but all I can say to you is whatever you do dont, however, you feel about her dad, s**g her dad off to her as this will confuse her and make her very unsettled. We have to put our feelings aside (I had a similar situ) and allow our children to have a relationship with the estranged parent (only of course if that parent, is a positive parent) If you have genuine concerns re: how your child is being cared for (at the end of the day she is the most important person here, not you or your ex, your daughters welfare is paramount) then you should discuss this with her father, if you continue to have concerns then you must consider whether your child should have access with this person. At the end of the day what you need to keep in mind is 'is my daughter benefiting from the relationship with her father' and I dont mean financially. Ask yourself these questions 'when with him is she safe? is she happy? if the answer is no to both or one of these then you need to discuss it with the father, and do whatever you need to do to get it resolved. With a new partner, an estranged father and a new baby on the way this is a confusing time for your child. Good Luck
Vicky xx
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