It seems like our 22 month old son has turned overnight from a little angel to the devil and its really starting to get me down. Both my husband and I work fulltime but as my husband is self employed he works a lot longer hours than I do so generally for 6 days each week I am a single parent dealing with Thomas, house, shopping, cleaning etc on my own. This has been fine up until now but now the tantrums have started I feel like i'm really struggling. My husband feels bad that he can't do more to help me but I understand that he needs to be at work. Sometimes I feel like Thomas is deliberately trying to break me, yet if I put him on the phone to my mum he's all cutie cutie 'hiya nana, been good boy'. At 22 months old how do they know how to work you like this? Don't get me wrong he still can be absolutley fantastic and want mummy cuddles and kisses (when he feels like it!) but some of the time he is a complete monster, hitting, screaming, throwing himself on the floor, banging his head on the door. I don't know what to do with him, I have tried walking into another room and ignoring him, but he just follows me and then throws himself infront of me! I know that they all go through this, but can somebody please give a bit of advice how best to cope with it to keep my sanity and how long is it likely to last. Sorry for the long post x

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Hi! I really can sympathise with you! My little boy is 26 months and he was an angel till about 22 months until the tantrums started. We made some progress taking toys off him and not letting him have them back until he behaved giving him tons of praise when good, but then I gave birth to my daughter, now 9 weeks, and it got so much worse! Everything was a battle from brushing his teeth, eating, going out, nappy changing etc. Yet like your little one he was an absolute golden child for his grandparents and auntie! I made a reward chart with him, with his fave characters on it and everytime he did something good, he could stick a sticker on it- which he loved!Every 20 stickers he got in a week, he got a treat, trip to the park or a comic etc. I also looked at his diet, He isnt allowed sweets but I was giving him quite a lot of food which contained sugars and flavours I wasnt aware of. Cutting all this out has also made a difference.Getting grandparents onside to back you up will help too! Its no good trying to be firm if nanny gives in! he still has his moments and can make me want to murder him,( especially when he has a hissy fit in asda! )but I just keep telling myself its because he is so intelligent, he needs stimulation and this is his way of letting me know. It is so hard sometimes though just remember youre not the only one going through it as draining and stressfull as it can be. Good Luck, hope your little angel returns soon! xx

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my little girl has a real bad temper to. shes 23 mths and you just have to say no and she lies on the floor screaming, i'm pregnant with my 3rd and don't know how she'll react to not being thde baby anymore

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I have been through this twice,and sorry to say my daughter was worse ( now have a fastly approching two year old, so no doubt my third go at this is on the way). When my other two kids had their tantrums at first we were like oh stop and fussed, then we learnt the naughty corner and time out. Next step was to just ignore them especially with head banging as my son decided to headbang the floor christmas morning about 4 years ago. Ignorance is the best method i think. we had a sun and cloud charts also when they were good they got a yellow dot on the sun and bad they got black on the cloud eventually we had more sun than clouds But once i played them at their own game. My son kicked of in asdas, and like the advert i lay on the flooor pretending to kick n scream, they both laughed at me, i sad thats how rediculous you look, and touch wood they have never done it since.

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