I would like some males advice if i can... i have also posted this on active baby... would rele appreiciate if a male got back to me wwith some advice.. HIya eveyone, my lil boy is 15 weeks old, his dad works nyts ( 6 nyts a wk) so end up in bed most of the day. we dont live together so Riley doesnt rele see him alot... he keeps saying to me our lil boy doesnt love him, as he doesnt look at him and smile as much. he rele feels our son doesnt love him and know who he is. and feelsa that wen he picks him up he just crys... its gets me down thinking about it and i rele dont know wot to do or say to him about it. i rele want him to feels differently and he gets involved as much as he can, he just rele feels this way and i dont know why... it is rele bothering him... any advice?? Julie and riley xx

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Hi Julie - to be blunt, it does sound as though your son just doesn't see his dad enough. I understand the circumstances with his job prevent this but from your son's behaviour that you've described it seems that he feels his dad is a stranger? But as he is still so young there is of course plenty of time to change this, I would just suggest trying to find ways of getting them to spend more time together!

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it sounds to me that if your boyfriend really wants his son to get to know him then he needs to sort himself out and actually spend some time with him. things aren't going to change unless HE changes them himself, either by getting a different job which means he can spend some time with your son, or just not sleep as much to spend some time with him. don't you feel guilty about it tho, you're doing as much as you can

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Hi there,i'm a father of two and i understand how it feels when you think your baby doesnt love/know you.It is hard but your partner NEEDS to make time for your son NOW or it will get alot harder when he grows up.I worked all hours of the day and night when my 1st son was born and very rarely saw him awake { had the same problem },but i knew that no matter what,my son had time with me so we could bond.Your partner will find it hard at first and will need your support,but please dont give in to the only natural feelings of "He is crying,i need to cuddle him",stay close by and let him see and hear you,and encourage him to let Daddy have a cuddle.If he starts to really get upset then interviene,settle him down then ask him if he can give Daddy a cuddle.You both need to be strong and SUPPORT EACH OTHER. It worked for me,now both my boys enjoy quality Daddy-time. Good luck and hope this is of help.

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thank you, things have seemed to get a lot better now, riley seems to prefer daddy now rather than me.. :(. but im just so happy to see the pair of them, bondin, enjoyin each other company and bein soo happy... thanks agen every1

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Hi! I've just read out your post to my husband and he says that your partner needs to spend more time with his son, pick him up and play with him and also not work so many nights. As a parent he now has a right to request suitable hours of work.

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