i'v been with my baby's dad 4 6years i love him but not in love. he dont help out with my 20weeks little gal can do a bit of cleaning and hold her but thats it. he's been on hoilday 4 a month now seein his mum aboard. i find its not that hard being a mum but i feel like a dad too! i havnt really missed him, if i was to finish with him would i find sum1, who wuld want me with a kid, where? i'm 21 feel like a old women, work pay bills clean cook and look after the little 1. wuld i have time 4 another man? if i stay with him is there anything i can do to stop him falling asleep on the sofa?

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Just to say im a single mom and have been since day one!it can be tough and very lonely but it isnt so bad!i actually like the fact there is no one else to mess up or argue with about the fact they arent helping!also you will get quite abit of help if your a lone parent and dont forget child maintance from the dad!If you have friends and family near by to help out or just to have a giggle with it all helps!As for will you met someone else of course you will!i did worry about this but needlessly so,i had a brief relationship soon after splitting with babies dad,i ended it because i wasnt ready and i knew the guy wasnt right for me but we are still mates now and he said the fact i had a child was never a problem..im now in another relationship and have been for quite afew months.he helps out with my son and never thought of this as a problem,i also think these days its more a rarity to NOT already have children so please dont worry about that issue!I think you need to talk to your partner explain how you feel it might be hard but he deserves to know and it might help things between you being honest is always best..explain you need and want more help ect....i also think its abit off hes buggerd off for a whole month and left you!dont rush into anything but i see and hear to many ppls relationships ending once a baby comes along,but again its not worth staying and being unhappy and getting no help from the dad is it?being a single mom isnt so bad infact it has its plus points lol!all the best hope you get something worked out!

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im just like you have a man around but dont do nothing i do everthing andit does get me down just to see him there when it was him to who wanted a baby. there are days when i just get on with it and say nothing but there are time when i want to just tell him to leave because its not going to make a difference if his here or not and i was right he is no longer here with me and im just getting on with things and i dont feel bad any more because he is not here for me to expect him to help. but every one is different girl just talk with him and make hime help you around the house or with the kids your in charge be in chargeand be strong. just take this in mind with him or not you will always have ups and down and i know everyone needs a little help now and again just dont expect to much. your on your own

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Of course you will find someone else, dont stay with him because you think it is right, do what will make you happy, you are only 21, so much time to meet a nice man. I'm 27 expecting my 1st baby in Feb, just split up with my boyfriend so I will be a single mother too, he doesnt even want to meet our baby cos he says all babys look the same!!! Men are weird!!! Lynette x

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thanks for the mgs i'm not with her dad anymore since i wrote doing it alone almost 6months at uni work and lookin after my little gal. She the only thing in my life that mks me happy. when u have a baby u know im doin it with or without the dad. i pay 4 everything work study to put clothes food socks on my gals feet. i dont want to be in LOve again but i dont want a man just 2have a man i want to be tken on dates sum1 to experince life with. i dont think the men i go 4 tk gals on dates and the others bore me! So i spend my saturdays watching Rebbeca. lots of love to all i know its lonley but when ya get sad just look at ya baby its all worth.

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