I have a six month old son and me and my partner have a very different opinion of when i should go back to work. I feel ready to go back into the big wide world and get an income of my own but my partner thinks i should wait until my son starts school! thats 4 years away!! My partner has two other kids with two other women and has said that they didn't go back to work till the kids started school but on the other hand he says im a much better mum than either of them so whats his problem? His first mum is selfish and only thinks about herself and the second one still doesn't work despite there daughter being at school. Im not being selfish im thinking about our future and being able to provide for our family his job doesn't pay that much so its not like we can do without the extra money i've said ill just get a part-time job till he starts school but thats a no go with him. so then i started thinking about what id really like to do and decided after much researching and thought that id like to go to uni and become a vet nurse so i sent of for course information without telling him and when i got it and shown him he stormed off and refused to speak to me for two days!! so anyway i filled in the appication and sent it off (he doesn't know) does anyone else think im being selfish or is my partner just really unsupportive and jealous that i want to make something of myself? I think this is really going to rock the boat if i get accepted what shall i do?

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hey i can soooo sympathise with you i have had the same!!!! MEN!!! if his income is not great why dont you suggest him being a stay at home dad and you go back to work if he is kicking up that much of a fuss? see what he has to say to that then if not explain that 4 years talking to no one but your child will send you potty, everyone needs a life outside the family home!! i have had the same problem now and after 5 months with my son as much as i love him to bits i need an adult conversation to i get so bored as my son is to good and as im a young mum (20) i get very lonely indoors all day as all my mates are at work. i totally agree with you and i think he is being very selfish to you. hope this helps

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hi Amy men are very strange creatures, they dont want us to be better then them and also, I believe that they have a problem with their ego. they feels superior and if they loved ones try to disturb their comfort zone, they dont like it. I think you should pursue your career, try to do something for yourself, maybe a talk with him would help to explain how you feel and that this idea of studying and subsequesntly having a job that would bring more money and improve your family life style might help. I do strongly believe in discussion, communication is very important. you know your partner and you need to find that moment when he is able to listen and discuss this with you. give him the facts, why it is important for you to study etc...tell him how you feel what benefit family will gain....I have 5 month old baby, thinking when to go to work because of the mortgage that I have to pay. my husband doesnt want me to go to work as he claims he can pay my part of mortgage and he can look after family. first of all, I need to get out of the house and see other people -I love my baby but the truth is, we need different environment too!part time job is good for you and for the family. I havent decided yet when to go to part time job but maybe when my baby is 1 year old.but definitely, I will go to work whatever my husband's wish is...we will need to talk and talk about that...so good luck to you with UNI ...XXX

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if you can go back to work with ease have no problem for care go for it because im sure your man is doing his thing. baby or not you still live and still have a life to live

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thats ridiculous! u have the right as a human being to want to do something with urself. why do people think that having a baby will just ruin ur life? im at college now studying child care and my boyfriend didnt really like it but i told him to stuff it. maybe his jealousy is just hiding the fact he wont see you as much maybe? sit down and speak to him without yelling or arguing and tell him u have a right to go back to school! theresa nd 6 month isaac-myles xxx

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