im due my husbands first child (my second) and im worried that he'll just see me as his baby's mum, i feel he uses the fact that im pregnant not to get close to me, and im worried that with all the tearing during labour he won't feel the same about me afterwards. I'm really concerned he'll go off me after our *son*daughter* is born, help!!

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if he loves you..he wont be bothered about the way you look after..you will be fine!!its just gona take time for u all to bond

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my advice to you is to sit down and talk to him just say you need a confidence boost i feel exactley the same way atm but i have talked to my partner and he made me feel abit better so all i can say is give it a go hope it helps x x

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I had my first baby in October last year and me and my partner are happier and closer than ever. We have been madly in love pretty much since the day we met and i honestly didn't think i could get any happier but since Kira was born everything is better the love that we feel for our daughter has strengthened our bond and the love and respect that we have for each other. Also after sharing the birth experience we are closer physically and i have to say my sex drive has gone up since i had my baby! I wouldn't worry and enjoy this experience together.

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i was like this before i had my first 6 months ago. i was terrified he wouldnt look at me the same and nothing would be like it was before. but if ur husband loves you, he'll just be so happy you gave him a child and when the babys asleep, you'll have some time to urself. if ure worried, sit down and speak to him about it and tell him ur concerns, and hopefully he'll say the right things and reassure u he'll still see you as his beautiful wife. hope this helps and good luck. theresa and 6 month isaac-myles xxx

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i remember reading something about this in a magazine where the babys dad saw his partner as a mum and lost the sexual connection with his partner because of it tha advice to her was that it proberly shocked him that this baby came out of you& you are now a mum and some men loose the sexual connection but it gradually get's better in time, i think its just the shock of it all.

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